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38 FOUR SEASONS BREEZE | DECEMBER 2014 | CLUBS & GROUpS We're planning informal social evenings in the winter. We hope this will allow as many of our LGBT neighbors and friends, and their friends, to get together with us. We're combining a social evening with Smitty's dinner around 6 pm, and you can enjoy your own beverages. Keep an eye on the Breeze for more information. No meeting is planned for December. If you have ideas, please email or call us. If you have any suggestions or questions, please call/email Dale at (951) 797-0364 or dbeckes@ dc.rr.com; or Barbara at (951) 845-6246; email Barbara at bamerton@alumni.ucla.edu. ~ Dale Beckes Rainbow Group We will be singing at the Holiday Shows Dec. 5 and 6. We hope you enjoy the show we have planned for you. While we have had lots of fun learning new songs and rehearsing each week, we will be taking a sabbatical until the spring. Happy Holidays to everyone! Check our article in the March Breeze for information about when rehearsals will resume. We meet on Mondays from 3 to 5 pm in the Ballroom. For further information, you can contact Barbara Wasco (951) 797-3466 or email at bawasco@dc.rr.com. ~ Barbara Wasco Four Seasons Singers If you want to lose weight or just would like to live a healthier lifestyle, TOPS (Take off Pounds Sensibly) is a great group to help motivate you and cheer you on along on your way to your goal. TOPS is very affordable ($28 per year membership and $3 per month chapter dues). If you would like to give it a try we meet in the Ballroom on Tuesday mornings with weigh-in from 8 to 8:30 am. The meeting runs from at 8:30 to 9:30 am. For more info., call Cathy Calhoun, Four Seasons resident and leader, at (951) 849-2614 or Rosalee Strong, Area Captain, at (951) 845-9313. ~ Cheryl Burke TOPS Every month, in writing about the Bereavement Group, we discuss the overwhelming sadness that death can produce, and we invite those of you who are struggling with this sadness to join us. But what if you are not all that sad? What if the relationship with the deceased was difficult and unhappy, and the feeling of which you are most aware is relief? Or what if you had months or even years of difficult care taking, and now that it is over, you also feel relief? And what if the other dominant feeling is guilt? And as further complication, what if you think you need to hide your feelings and pretend to feel something that you do not? Well, guess what? You are just human, and human beings have all kinds of reactions to and feelings about everything, including death. And your feelings are perfectly ok, they're just feelings. And perfectly human. Those of us in this group are a small community. We have come together to share, to help ourselves and each other to navigate through a difficult time in our lives. Each of us brings our own experiences, thoughts and feelings to the community and it is in the mutuality of our exchanges that we find common, healing ground. And we do not judge each other. All of us have myriad feelings about the losses we have sustained, and often in talking about all of the feelings we reach clarity and achieve some relief. We realize that every one of us has complicated, sometimes conflicting, feelings. Sometimes it feels very uncomfortable to talk with our family and friends about what we are going through. So we keep it to ourselves, and that just isolates us even further from those we care about at a time when we really need them. Maybe it's time for you to come to see what we can offer you. We will listen, share, care and not judge you. Believe me, we understand. We are all traveling the same road, each of us in our own way and at our own pace. But together. And that's what makes the difference. The Bereavement Group meets on Mondays from 1 to 3 pm in the Arts and Crafts room in the Lodge. The group runs in cycles of twelve weeks with a four week break, then resumes for twelve weeks. This 12 week cycle will end Dec. 15 and a new one will begin on Jan. 19. You can join us at any time. Additionally, we may get together once or twice during the holidays if we think we could use the support. Please contact me at (951) 922-0934 or at lauriemlarson425@ gmail.com. All contact is confidential. ~ Laurie Larson Bereavement Group

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