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We're planning informal social evenings in the spring. We hope this will allow as many of our LGBT neighbors and friends, and their friends, to get together with us. We're combining a social evening with Smitty's dinner around 6 pm, and you can enjoy your own beverages. Keep an eye on the Breeze for more information. We don't plan a dinner in June. If you have ideas, please email or call us. If you have any suggestions or questions, please contact Dale at (951) 797-0364 or dale.beckes@gmail. com; or Barbara at (951) 845-6246 or email Barbara at bamerton@alumni.ucla.edu. ~ Dale Beckes 38 FOUR SEASONS BREEZE | JUNE 2015 Rainbow Group Rehearsals are well under way for the Fourth of July Patriotic show. We are having fun singing these songs and getting our red, white and blue on! We are also learning a new, hard song that we hope you will enjoy as we ask you to clap along with us. Enjoying ourselves is easy as we are stimulating our sacculus, that little organ in the inner ear which only responds to frequencies found in music. This tiny organ is connected to the part of the brain responsible for registering pleasure. So every Monday we are lifting our moods and fighting depression with no side effects as well as socializing and just having fun. We meet in the Ballroom near the piano. Rehearsals are on Mondays from 3 to 5 pm. Or, you can contact Barbara Wasco (951) 797-3466 or email at bawasco@dc.rr.com. ~ Barbara Wasco Four Seasons Singers Since the new Bereavement Group began on May 11 there was, as always, a period of adjustment while participants became comfortable with being in the group. As meetings ensue we will hear each others' stories, share our own story, learn that we are not alone in our experiences, find relief because our feelings, thoughts and actions are "normal" and not unusual, and learn that we not only take from the group but also give to the group. Frequently, participants are surprised and confused because they find themselves mourning not only the person they just lost, but other previous losses as well. A rule of thumb to remember is that every new loss brings up old losses. Thus, one person may come in to process the death of a friend, only to find that grief about a long-deceased spouse comes to the forefront. Or rather than mourning a death, a long-ago divorce seems to be of more importance. That feels confusing and sometimes it feels disrespectful, as if the recently deceased person wasn't important enough to us. Not so. Loss will be grieved, if not now, then later. Perhaps there were circumstances that prevented grieving at that long ago time. Maybe there were children to rear and we just had to keep on going. It doesn't matter. This is a time to be gentle with ourselves. As we talk in the group we will find commonality and understanding and support. If this sounds helpful to you, please come join us. We meet in the Crafts Room in the Lodge on Mondays from 1-3 pm. There will be 12 meetings. The first was on May 11, and the last will be on July 27. Then there will be a four week break and the cycle will begin again. You may just walk in, or you may call (951) 922-0934 or email lauriemlarson425@gmail.com All contact is confidential. ~ Laurie Larson Bereavement Group

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