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54 FOUR SEASONS BREEZE | OCTOBER 2025 Our August event was Bunco. As the Divas entered the room you could already feel the high energy from each one. Some of the Divas are pros at playing Bunco and they mean business. Then there are those like myself who just like throwing the dice and let the pros keep track of the scores. It isn't a quiet game which makes it so much fun. Also throughout the game we are constantly rotating seats and that creates much laughter because it can be confusing. What would we do without the pros? We took a short break for refreshments and, feeling recharged, continued the fun. Bunco is traditionally played with four players at each table and is a game of chance, not skill. The player with the highest number of wins is considered the top winner and may receive a cash prize. The player with the most Buncos receives a prize. The player with the most losses (the "Big Loser"), can also receive a prize. In the end the "Big Loser" is actually also a winner. The Crown Divas are busy planning more fun events this year. With new members come new ideas. We can't wait! ~ Irma Romero, (626) 733-3019, Irmabsromero@gmail.com Life After Loss "e Loss of Intimacy" One of the deepest losses following the death of a spouse is the loss of physical connection. Much more than just the physical act of sex, all survivors are suddenly and without warning, cast into an agonizing world of individual isolation … where physical touch and closeness are agonizingly absent. Gone are the familiar comforts of companionship. Instead, a cruel rendition of Groundhog Day is the new reality. Each new day is a haunting replication of the previous — isolation and solitude. Despite the best-wishes and supportive efforts of friends/family, it never bridges the void deep in your soul. You feel broken and in a state of perpetual disrepair. Some thoughts to consider: Acknowledge Your Feelings Without Shame: It's a natural human need to desire touch, connection, and physical affection, even after a loss. This is the way human beings are wired and the expression and desire is completely normal. Second, rather than viewing the need for connection as a betrayal of your spouse, regard it as a testament to the depth of the love you shared. Prioritize Self-Care: Now that you are a widow/widower, take the time to connect with and appreciate your own body as well as your unique personality. Many times, a "reconnection" with ourselves is an important precursor to achieving a sense of healing. It is possible to be alone without being lonely. This task can also ease the longing for physical connection with another person. Second, participate in hobbies and activities here at the Four Seasons that bring joy and a sense of comfort to help manage your emotions and ease the ache of missing intimacy. Seek the Support of Others: Talk with friends and family with whom you have a close relationship. Though individual readiness varies, and the subject can be difficult to navigate, discussing your feelings and conversing about intimacy after a loss can be helpful. Should you sense the need, therapists can also provide valuable insights and strategies The Life After Loss Group is about "people helping people" who have encountered any form of grief or loss in their life. Should you desire a deeper understanding of a "life after loss," we invite you to join us. Unless otherwise notified, we meet in RCN Activity Room #3, the first and third Mondays of each month from 1 to 3 pm. All information is kept confidential. If you would like to join the group, please text/call Byron Thomsen beforehand at (909) 936-7097 or email byron.thomsen@yahoo.com. ~ Byron omsen Crown Divas Four Seasons

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